Monday, December 17, 2012

People Playing Roles (Relatively)

Have you ever given much thought about how good people are at each role they play? I think it's a very interesting phenomena how much variation there is in a single person when it comes to different roles. One person can be extremely good at being a father while being a crappy husband. Someone can be a very good friend but a unbearable sister. I think roles define who people are. Like all other things people are relative. Which reminds me that Albert Eisenstein is so right. He said that all the things are relative. I never thought this might literally applied to us humans until recently.

You may have heard other's say things differently about someone you know. Things like, "I can't imagine what's wrong with you. He's such a good person. But you seem to find some wrong with him all the time and fight over nothing". That person is talking about your boyfriend while being a good friend to both of you. You might probably think that your friend is taking his side. However, I think what you should get out of this is... that your boyfriend is an extremely good friend but a crappy boyfriend. He's good at playing friend role but not the other. I think things can change once you understand this. You'll see things more positively. I hope.

I was taught to see both good and bad in people. I was told to ignore bad and hang on to the goody part. That is possibly the greatest lesson I've learnt in my life time so far. It was not a lesson about people. It was a lesson about relativity and how relativity applies to people. I think. Maybe it's something else altogether. But I'm just gonna hang to this definition for now.

By the way, I should really stop trying to post psychological stuff on my blog. I'm so not good at this. I bet you are utterly confused now. Well, I can't help it and you probably deserved it for reading my blog buddy. :P

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Nothing more awesome than the evening for "Breaking Dawn"

It was awesome!

The movie was awesome!!
I planned to watch Twilight Saga, Breaking Dawn Part II ever since I read the book. Surely, that feeling became unbearable right after I watched the part one of it. It's ending was superb. I remember watching Bella's transformation several times on YouTube after that. Oh c'mon!! It's not that creepy, is it? I mean if you have watched it, then you know what I mean. That was like the only part which I could not imagine by reading the book. So I think the movie helped me a lot with my ever spanning imagination and I'm so thankful for that. :D

As for the part two, like I said It was awesome. However, like all awesome things, this also have a down side. It seems like they have rushed the first portion of the movie too much. Like it was way too disconnected. I felt like watching a slideshow rather than a movie. So unoriginal, if you know what I mean. And the dialogues were cheesy. Not that I grasped each and every one of them, but the parts I got were all cheesy. I mean, "We are in the same temperature now".?? What was that? It's so not Edward!! I really don't think he would have picked that line for that moment. right? like I said, so not Edward. Anyway, except for the dialogues  I was very much pleased with the rushing when I got to the next portion of the movie. The awesome part. The rushing was definitely worth it. It's not that I prefer action movies over romantic ones. But the action scene was very catchy. for lack of better words, it was awesome. I think I shouldn't use that "a" word again in this post. I think you all have had enough of it for the day :D

As I remember, I never wrote about a movie before. So this must suck. If it's not then I'm sure it's beginners luck. Anyway, thank you, all the cast and crew members of Breaking Dawn Part two for the awe...... amazing movie. I hope you'll not sue me for criticizing your lines :D

PS : Maybe it's too much information, but I'm reading the Twilight series again. For the 7th or 8th time. I think. started with draft of Midnight Sun two days ago. And Stephanie, I do love you. But I'll love you more if you write the rest of Midnight Sun and put me out of my misery. 

Also, I watched it in the evening. I bet the heading makes sense now, right? :D

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Adult Bullying

Few days ago, I read an article about adult bullying. It was very interesting until I realized I'm a victim. That was bit of a shock and a devastating feeling. But then I realized up to different levels, we all are. And I felt much better. It always feels good be included rather than being left out, even if the group you belong is the worst kind. In this case bullying-victim group.

Let me tell u how I realized this ultimate truth. The article talked about most of the indicators to identify bullies and their victims. Something about harassment and "using their power to go after another". Bottom line is you know when you are being bullied if you feel someone else is forcing you to do things despite your unwillingness. ah! there goes the bulb. Now you know you are being bullied. Congratulations my friend. You have joined the club. ;)

However, it says that most of the adult bullying occurs at the workplaces. Oh boy! Never saw that coming, right? There is something important you have to understand here. I hope you remember that time, right after lunch, you feel all sleepy and you want so badly to drop dead on the table? And sometimes you are brave enough to do so. Then at that exact moment your manager comes and ask you what you are doing? And you are forced to keep your eyes open unwillingly. Well, unfortunately,  that's not bullying. I"m sure that theres another fancy word for that too. But sadly, it's not "Bullying". I'm talking about a situation where your manager asks you to work extra hours in order to cover someone else's work. And when you reject to do so, simply because you have your own personal life to take care of. Then your manager starts yelling at you saying that you'll not be entitled for either promotions or salary increment next year because you have very bad attitudes. Well, I think you get the picture here. My personal opinion is, that's bullying. Must say, very harsh bullying indeed.

Since you know the problem now, lets see what you can do about it. Well, there's practically nothing to do. You can't take any action against him/her. Of cause the article suggested to confront the bully, or to show that you are ignoring the person, or even to report the HR department. But trust me, that won't work.  Frankly, it'll get worse. But instead, I would suggest to stop showing, go ahead and completely ignore the person. Do things your way if you think it's right even if you don't get promoted next year. You wouldn't probably get promoted even if you do as your manager says. After all, who can trust a bully right ? ;)

Friday, August 17, 2012

Long time no C...

Isn't it funny how people manage to do all sorts of stuff at the busiest times and they couldn't do a single out of the routine work at all when there's nothing important going on? Like when you have exams, you have all the time in the world to do Not-so-important stuff. Well you're probably missing "studying", but still you have enough time to watch movies, play games and writing blog posts and what else... sleep.. most importantly sleep... if you know what I mean... Anyways my point is.. I couldn't come around to write a blog post because I didn't have any exams or any other busy work recently.

Having produced a satisfactory excuse.... Lets see what I'm going to write today.  Not that I have exams now, but I just felt like writing something just to remind myself that I have a blog. That seems like a pretty good reason to me. So let me write something unusual that I do. 

I'm reading kids books these days. I got a British Council Library membership for my niece. At a time we can borrow four books with the membership. Notice how I used "we" instead of "she"? She's only 6, so I decided that she can only read 3 books a week. (well, that's my decision and my niece doesn't agree... naturally.. kids..uhhm!! We usually goes to the library on Saturdays and she usually finish reading 'em by Tuesday.. Because of my well planned great decision she spends rest of the week memorizing those 3 books ;) )  Bottom line is... I'm reading a kids book every week from my niece's library membership. when I put it that way... it does sound bad. but... I'm still going to do that next week.

Plus side of reading kids books is... you enjoy 'em in two different ways. One thing is there's a genuine yet very innocent story you can enjoy without worrying too much. Other enjoyment comes when you remember how much of belief you put on these stories when you were a kid. How you used to think that Nancy Drew is an actual person and how perfect she is (a little too perfect may I add) and how you tried to solve mysteries by yourself but you found none. Then you thought that your neighborhood is totally boring. huh?? brings back so many lovely memories.. doesn't it ? and then you wanted your regular dog to be a super dog like Timothy from The Famous Five? oohhh! Good o'l days ;) This can go on like forever but if you used to read books when you were little you probably know what I'm saying here.

Anyways tomorrow is the library day! Try reading some kids books for a change. you'll see what I meant. Happy reading everyone!!!